Posts by Seeking Knowledge

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Another Newbie :)

by merfi in

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it's hard to know where to begin, so i'll just... begin.. i had my first encounter with jw in high school when my now ex-husband moved into our small town.

(you're doing the math already, aren't ya?

:) ) after finding out he was a jw, i did a little bit of reading into it, which he discouraged... told me that that stuff is "apostate" (i had no idea what that meant) and that he'd give me stuff to read.

Seeking Knowledge

(((Merfi)))

Welcome to the board. You'll find great support & friends here. It never ceases to amaze me what a destructive force this "JW thing" is. Welcome to the real world! Hugs to you & your children.

SK

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Question for the guys on JWD!

by Poodles in

good morning guys, i'm a women in love with a jw who does not feel the same way about me!

we have been in this relationship for the past seven years!

i will try to make this short and to the point so as not to bore you ok!

Seeking Knowledge

Poodles:

I agree with most everything said so far. You need to cut all ties with this jerk & find out who you are and what you want before you look again. You don't deserve to be treated this way. Don't be anyone's doormat!!

No one can take advantage of you without your permission.

SK

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Let's start this again for Ajsmama

by undercover in

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friends

i felt bad for the newbie that came here for some advise and her thread got locked due to the immaturity of a few folks.. i know she could restart her own thread, but being new she might be reluctant to get involved with us again after that sorry display of manners before.

i hope i'm not out of line, but i'll start a new thread for her.

below is her original post.

Seeking Knowledge

HI ajsmama Welcome to the board

Whatdja do??

SK

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A Pedophile in our local congo--WHAT SHALL I DO PUBLICALLY? mmmmm...

by wozadummy in

for some months we have known of a pedophile in our congo who molested his daughters years ago and we were told this by the pioneer sister who used to get a lift from him and his wife but won't now go with them .

we hav'nt been for some time but are having our own seperate issue over this type of problem and spoke to elders who we reqested to see for ages ,and they finally came around and i questioned them about this pedophile and the societies stance on this sought of thing, whether anything has changed in policy and of course it has'nt and i threw it at them that they have not warned the congo of his past conduct and he has been seen at the hall trying to hug kids and of course the brothers and sisters think he is just a jolly grandfather type !!!!!!!

of course most are ignorant of the real him and i pointed out also that we can't go to the hall to worship along a filthy scum like this.

Seeking Knowledge

the list on silent lambs only showed the towns where there were congregations with a sexual abuser, not the actual names of the congregations. can somebody direct me somewhere else for that? Thanks a bunch.

Me too! There are 3 KH's in Anchorage alone!! I don't go with my son (his father takes him) and would LOVE some peace of mind, at least to have a heads up!

SK

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Are you the same person "Online" as in "Real Life"?

by JH in

jw
friends

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maybe most of you, who see me post, think that i talk alot because i start many threads, but i'm way more quiet in real life.. how about you, are you the same online as in real life?

Seeking Knowledge

Pretty much the same...sitting back in the corner watching all the interaction. Only joining in when it pertains to me!!

SK

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Oh, how I hate ex-spouses!

by caligirl in

jw
friends

sorry, i just need to vent.

my ss will be 18 very shortly.

the state that they live in actually allows child support to continue until the age of 21(wtf?

Seeking Knowledge

And here is your other side

I make more money than my ex, and he has to pay child support to his son. I put it in my sons' account & use it only when necessary, which isn't often. He's pissed off at me because he has to pay this child support. He feels that since I make more money than he does, I should be paying him (we have joint custody at the moment). I am the custodial parent and I have him more than 50% of the time. He owes over $10,000 in back child support...why? Because for the first couple of years of our sons life, he never felt the need to support his son. He enjoyed the extra money in his check so he could go out & woo his soon to be new wife and only when that was in place did he decide to be a father. Granted his monthly amount is not much as he doesn't make much, but he still manages to afford his apartment, his estranged wife's apartment, support of his other son and soon to be 2nd child, support of his estranged wife and 2 vehicles he paid cash for not to mention utilities, insurance (I hope) and other fun things. Do I feel sorry for him...um nah! Does he bitch to me on a frequent basis that all his money goes to me?? You betcha. Would he be paying this money if the state wasn't removing it from his check??? NOPE!

In the meantime, I supported our son 100%. I fed him, clothed him (and I might add whenever I buy the boy new clothes, he gets sent back in clothes that are either too big or too small for him, never the new stuff) Entertained him, paid for daycare, you name it, it was me alone. I'd ask him for money, I'd get $200 if I were lucky, and only when I chased him for it. I got tired of chasing him, so I got an attorney.

I do not "want" more money from him, I don't rely on his child support to keep me in a "lavish lifestyle". I have 2 kids, single parent, every penny counts. Because my son's money goes into his account it's not spent on my other child as I've been accused of. I can't change his mind or his perception of how things are. I'm the money grubbing ex who always wants more in his eyes. . I'm fairly certain I'm probably deranged, psycho or whatever else he & the estranged wife want to label me with. She's not going to get much blood from that turnip! However, with every purchase I make, be it my new car, clothes whatever, of course you can bet that I got those things because of the money he's paying me.

I think that when he's finally paying child support for his other two children with a wife that I feel WILL hound him for more money & use the kids as a tool, then maybe he'll appreciate how easy he's got things with me now. And our son will appreciate a head start on college. Here's hoping.

SK

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Intensely lonely

by Cabin in the woods in

jw
friends

normally i am fine but a glass and a half of wine and my heart is breaking.

the irony of it is is that i was as lonely as this in the congregation.. i feel overwhelmed with life and never seem to get anywhere or get anything done.

god, i sound pitiful.

Seeking Knowledge

Hi Mary:

Welcome to the board....Alaska you say?? I'm here for you! You've come to the right place, great people & lots of support. I hope you stick around!

SK

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My eighteen yr. old son wants to get his lip pierced !!!!

by troubled mind in

aghhhhhhhhhh, he thinks it's cool i think it's grosss!

any suggestions that you think may help to persuade him from going through with it ?

Seeking Knowledge

Yikes....my daughter who's 16 just had HER bellybutton pierced compliments of her grandma (who was also responsible for my brothers pierced ears when they were younger...hey mine too) No tattoo's yet....

I'd say short of offering to do it for him with a rusty nail & a hammer, let him go for it. He's 18 and I agree with all the other posters, he wants to do his "own thing". It's harmless compared to what they could really be doing!

SK

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